• 2020 176pp paperback ISBN: 9781568872223
This book will aid the mental health professional to help their clients learn the skill set of unexpected responses to throw bullies (who use toxic verbiage) off balance in their attempt to establish dominance. The techniques are not appropriate for physical assault, serious verbal threats, sexual harassment, or other hateful techniques that require intervention from appropriate authorities. Instead, the program the author presents gives clinicians an arsenal of novel methods to help clients: (a) practice four categories of responses that change common attack-attack, attack-defend, and pursue-distance patterns; (b) contrasts commonly taught assertive language patterns with disarming responses; (c) apply neuroscience that validates the effectiveness of these methods to reduce clients' resistance to making changes in verbal patterns; (d) recognize character types and situations that breed the need to dominate and control, and distinguish which responses work best with which circumstance; (e) analyze protocols and surprising technologies to teach clients new strategies; and (f) review handouts that can be used to teach new skills.
Reviews
"Kate has managed to cram in
a mass of information, both technical and research-based, while still managing
to weave in elements of experiential narrative that connect the information to
our human experience. She is speculative on occasion, which I like to see, but
always making it clear when she does so. Please learn from this book and also
look for your story, or something like it, because I believe by giving Bully Proof your careful
attention, you will find both."
-Richard Hill MA, MEd, MBMSc, co-author of The Practitioners Guide to Mirroring Hands with Ernest Rossi; Managing Editor of The Science of Psychotherapy; President of the Global Association for Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS); and author of Choose Hope
"This book is a valuable
resource and practical guide for those who have experienced bullying, whether
at home, school, or the workplace. Kate Cohen-Posey does a fantastic job
helping readers improve their 'bully proof' skill set with easy-to-use, clear,
step-by-step techniques. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to
learn how to manage the bullies in their life using effective, intelligent, and
often humor-based strategies."
-Jennifer Sweeton, PsyD, MS, MA, licensed clinical psychologist and author of the bestselling book Trauma Treatment Toolbox
"Kate Cohen-Posey has for decades been at the
forefront of educating people how not to be victims of verbal hostility. Her
comprehensive new book, Bully Proof, will be a boon
for the therapy professions."
-Izzy Kalman, MS, School Psychologist and author of Bullies to Buddies: How to Turn Your Enemies Into Friends
Table of Contents
Introduction
Empowering Skills
Chapter 1: Empowering Skill #1: Affirm
Chapter 2: Empowering Skill #2: Ask
Chapter 3: Empowering Skill #3: Actively Listen
Chapter 4: Empowering Skill #4: Hints and Humor
Chapter 5: To Be or Not to Be Assertive
Chapter 6: Bully Proof with Brain Power
Chapter 7: Traits and Temperaments of Tyrants, Targets, and Entrancing Talkers
Situational Bullying
Chapter 8: Intimate Empowerment
Chapter 9: Intergenerational Empowerment
Chapter 10: Empowerment with Peers
Chapter 11: Empowerment in the Workplace
Chapter 12: Teaching Clients Empowering Practices
Afterword and Acknowledgments
Glossary
References
CE Program
Companion Book
About the Author
Kate Cohen-Posey, MS, is
a mental health counselor with a clinical practice through Florida Behavioral
Health in Lakeland, Florida. Driven by a desire to provide clients
concise therapeutic information, she started writing booklets. John Wiley
& Sons discovered these thera-tracts, called her, and said, “We think
you’re the author we need.” This proposal launched her career as a writer
with several titles to her credit: the Brief Therapy Client Handouts books; Making
Hostile Words Harmless; How to Handle Bullies, Teasers, and Other
Meanies, and more. Booklist, citing How to Handle
Bullies, Teasers, and Other Meanies, agrees she is an author of
necessity. Kate is passionate about teaching communication and other
cutting-edge treatment approaches to professionals and developing such therapy
tools as The Handy Brain Model and Brain Change Cards®.
Facilitating clients as they manage their own life challenges is her
inspiration, joy, and source of new knowledge.
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