HEAD OVER HEART IN LOVE

INTRODUCTION

1.  A Couple Who Laughs Together, Stays Together

2.  Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right: Righting Love By Not Duplicating Wrong

3.  Circle the Wagons: Substituting You and Me Against Each Other for You and Me Against the World

4. Don't Dish It Out Even if You Can Take It: Choosing Your Critical Words Carefully

5.  Insisting Upon Being Right: Dying With the Right of False Pride On

6.  Playing God and Fighting Like the Devil: When Love Falters

7.  Love Versus Need: Getting a Grip- But Not Too Tight - On Your Love Live

8.  Fight With Me or You Don't Love Me: Refusing the Misery-Likes-Company Invite

9.  The Hard Side of Love Makes It Easier

10.  Hitting Below the Belt: Where and Why It Really Hurts Love's Intentions

11.  Mind Reading: Hazards of Thinking You Know More About Others Than They Know About Themselves

12.  Finger Pointing: Why Alibis Don't Get the Loving Job and Joy Done

13.  Evening Up and Getting Even: Scorekeeping and Its Connection to Self-Pity

14.  Backhanded Compliments as Backdoor Aggression: Saying One Thing and Meaning Another

15.  The Cost of Avoiding Conflict at All Costs

16.  The One and Only Love Syndrome: Hazards of Putting All Your Eggs in One Basket

17.  Give a Little, Gain a Lot: Proposing Workable Compromises

18.  Love's Refusals: More Gracefully Taking and Giving No for an Answer

19.  Love is Blind - Including Self-Love

20.  Opposites Attract - and Attack: And Twenty-Nine Other Paradoxes of Dating and Mating

21.  Servicing Compatibility By Doing What Comes Unnaturally

22.  Burying the Hatchet: Open, Unadulterated Apology as a Means to Corrective Ends

23.  What Would Possess Him or Her to Leave?  Possessiveness and Its Paradoxical Effects

24.  Looking for Fault But Not Blame With Infidelity

25.  Reasonable, Yet Unrealistic Love Expectation: Avoiding Their Toll and Toil

APPENDIX

BIBLIOGRAPHY